Saturday, September 27, 2014

Change......



Even though we’ve been back at school for three full weeks, it is not uncommon for some of our little ones to still be adjusting to the demands of a long school day.  This adjustment may manifest in the form of anxiety, inflexibility, clinginess, or just pure exhaustion as they try to internalize all that goes along with school.  While they may behave perfectly fine and seem chipper at school, it is very common for them to meltdown at home, falling apart at the seemingly smallest of disappointments or obstacles.

After all, this is a big change for many of these children.  For some, it is their first full day or full week at school.  It is our job as adults to acknowledge the strong feelings that come along with a change.  Once we have committed to the change, all that is left to do is acknowledge whatever reactions and feelings our child has. Acknowledging that it is hard to be at school for a long day, but that our child is ready for this challenge will go a long way in easing the anxiety.  Encourage him or her to express any feelings of sadness, anger, or worry.  Hold strong, but don’t try to talk your child out of his/her feelings.  If you welcome them, they will pass more quickly.  

“When children are overtaxed emotionally, they sometimes misbehave; their intense emotions and the demands of the situation trump their internal resources.  The expression of a need or a big feeling therefore results in aggressive, disrespectful, or uncooperative behavior - which is simply proof that children haven’t built certain self-regulation skills yet.  Misbehavior is often a cry for help calming down, and a bid for connection.”   Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., co-author of the book No Drama Discipline:  The Whole Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind.

Another way uncertainty can manifest is clinginess.  Clingy periods tend to coincide with children taking developmental steps toward independence (like starting school).  Sometimes they occur when children face new situations or transitions.  I advise never resisting clinginess. Yes, there are times we need (or want) to separate, and that’s a healthy and positive thing to do.  When we trust that our child needs to be close and give him or her the assurance that we don’t resist this need, separation anxiety eases. So whenever possible — give in wholeheartedly. Hold your child close and try to imagine the day he or she no longer wants to spend time on your lap (or doesn’t fit very well).

Encourage autonomy - a taste of independence doesn’t eliminate separation anxiety and clinginess, but it definitely seems to lessen the frequency, intensity and duration of these episodes. This makes sense, because children who have tasted autonomy have the knowledge that they are capable and will be fine throughout the school day.  With more and more opportunity for independence, their confidence will grow and they will begin to venture out of their comfort zone, trying new things, making new friends, and taking risks.  

At school these little ones are doing great - they are happy, fully engaged, eager, curious, fun, loving, and cheerful.  They are spending their days learning, playing, listening, and talking.  Even though this is extremely worthwhile, it is still tiring and a big effort to keep it together all day.  It is not surprising that many of these kiddos come home and collapse into a heap of obstinate, stubborn, and headstrong behaviors.  Luckily, this will not last forever.  In a few short weeks stamina will increase, expectations and routines will be mastered, and these kids will seem like they’ve been doing this forever.  Until then, we need to give them our understanding, unconditional love and support, and instill in them the confidence that they have what it takes to master a new year at school.   The first step to handling any change is a parent’s conviction.  Certain about the change ourselves, we can project that certainty for our child and give him or her the united front of conviction he/she needs to handle this new experience.  

Here are some photos of your children happily playing, learning, and having fun this week.

We opened the sand table! 


Working together

This resulted in an amazing marble path! 

Sorting alphabet stickers

Exploring math manipulatives

An intricate log house

Fun at recess! 
A math game


Table blocks

Saturday, September 20, 2014

Ready to fly!

It was a week full of excitement in the K-1's.  We arrived on Monday morning to find that all seven of our painted lady chrysalises had hatched.  The children watched with curiosity and wonder at the delicate butterflies flying around our butterfly habitat.  We fed them oranges and sugar water and were able to watch with amazement as they landed on a orange, drinking the juice.  They lived in the habitat for almost four days before we released them out into the butterfly garden this week.  I think we were all a bit sad to let them go, but knew this was what nature intended - for them to fly free.

Waiting to take off!

Stopping in for a landing.

Wow!

It's on my dress!

Here it goes!
Watching the take off.

Excitement

A gorgeous morning.


One found a friend! 

Stopping in for a drink.
This lovely end of summer weather has allowed us to get outside again this week with the 2-3's for muddy boots.  We walked the trails of Parker noticing pre-fall colors and changes in our environment.  It was a wonderful time to be outside, spend time with friends from another class, and enjoy the natural beauty around us.



A buddy trio.

Happy buddies!







Also this week, we had our first buddy time.  The K-1's met with the middle schoolers, mostly to play outside and get acquainted.  We'll be finalizing the buddy pairs next week, and continue getting to know our special friends.  This is such a wonderful relationship to watch develop - one that will grow throughout the school year.

Another very busy, productive, and fun week with these amazing kiddos!

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Beginnings.....

It's been an exciting and eventful first week in the K-1 classroom.  Children arrived, some tentative and watchful, others confident and ready, eager to see old friends.  The children all got settled quickly, finding activities and exploring the room.  All the first graders scanned the room for changes and similarities from last year, finding comfort in the old familiar things - the schedule of the day, the monthly calendar, the block area, dress ups, and the classroom frogs.  These areas of the room that stayed the same provided needed continuity from last year, while the few small changes kept things fresh and exciting.

If I can capture a feeling from this past week, I think it is safe to say "beginnings" is an appropriate sentiment. The children worked hard to learn the routines, interact with their peers, listen to directions, and be an active part of our classroom community.  In these early days, life in the classroom focuses on these comforting routines - how to walk quietly in a line down the hall, how to listen to a story on the rug, how to be respectful of our friends during both classroom time and recess.  I could tell all of these little ones were working hard to internalize these routines.  Some days a little friend would ask at 11:00 am "Is it time to go home yet?"  This is all very normal for this time of year.  For many, the classroom expectations, and all that coincides with the first days in a Kindergarten and First-grade classroom, prove challenging.  We're definitely getting there - both Lauren and I noticed increased stamina, friendships being made, and a sense of classroom community being built.

We're already getting some wonderful work accomplished - reading together and independently, investigating the butterfly life cycle, making books and drawings, exploring our math materials, building, creating, exercising, talking, singing, dancing, and having fun.  This is an amazing group - I can't wait for all the adventures that lie ahead!!

Warmly,  Jennifer


Happy to be with our friends! 


Looking for caterpillars

Our first Muddy Boots expedition 

Muddy Boots

Exploring our math manipulatives
Building
More caterpillar searching


Mastering the monkey bars! 
Hmmm.....what's this?



Listening to a story with Lauren


This looks interesting......
Look what I made! 

TaDa!

Ready to document! 
Getting ready to take some notes out at Muddy Boots


Dressing up
Look at us! 



Intently building 

Working together
Careful work


Muddy Boots with the 2-3's!









Getting ready to explore!  
Friends!